Questioner: What should I do when the mind asks for something new everyday?
Dadashri: Do you want to kill the mind or keep it alive?
Questioner: Dada, please take away my mind.
Dadashri: Don’t be silly! The mind cannot be removed. If the mind is removed from your body, you become without a mind. Not even the mental hospital would keep you there without a mind, because even mad people have a mind. The mind thrives on new things and so it will ask for it. It is the nature of the mind to seek different things. In one instance it will say, “Marry a Muslim” and in another it will say, “Marry a Hindu.” Will you not have to find out the one who is saying all this?
Questioner: Who can explore the mind?
Dadashri: The manoyogis (those who practice how to calm the mind) can explore into the mind but they cannot dissolve it. They are able to control the proliferation of the mind. Nevertheless, the tubers of things they like continue to grow. The mind can only be dissolved if you have the exact medicine for it.
On one side the mind discharges and on the other side it charges through illusion. You cannot obstruct the discharging of the mind. The Gnani Purush puts a stop to the charging of the mind so then it is possible for the discharging mind to gradually dissolve. Nevertheless, this can only be done through the weapon of knowledge given by the Gnani Purush. The Gnanis too have a mind. Even Lord Mahavir had a mind, but what kind of a relationship do they have with their minds? It is just like a man standing at the door shaking hand and receiving the wedding guests, one by one (He does not get stuck on one guest). Gnani too observes the salute from each thought that springs forth when the tubers in the mind begin to sprout. He will acknowledge the thoughts one by one as they come forth. The Gnani maintains a relation of gnata-gneya (knower-object to be known) with the thoughts; He does not become one with them. He does not get ‘married’ to them. Not having met a Gnani, has caused one to have all kinds of thoughts and create tubers by becoming engrossed in these thoughts, which give rise to more thoughts and the harassment continues ad infinitum. When you meet a Gnani, He will show you how to dissolve those tubers and then they will melt away.
The Mind is created by expressing opinions
Questioner: So is there a difference when a person expresses an opinion and when he does not?
Dadashri: The mind will not arise (be created) if you do not express an opinion. The mind will stop. The mind arises when you express opinions; that is when the mind is born.
Questioner: What if one has an opinion but does not express it?
Dadashri: Opinion will go away if you do not express it. But if you do, then it will give rise to the mind. If you have it in your mind that, ‘the kadhee is salty’, but you do not express it in words at all, then nothing will happen. The moment you say something, the mind arises; it is born. This is not easy to understand, it is very subtle. However, based on this, it is also possible for you to reduce the mind.
Opinion in each and everything! When tea is served, one would say there is not enough sugar in it. ‘This vegetable has too much salt.’ Hey! Just be quiet and eat! If you do not like it, then do not eat it, but why are you giving opinions? You want to eat kadheeeven when it is good. If you feel like it, then take it. There is no problem if you do not want it but do not express an opinion. Then the mind will stop (from arising). There is no problem in you eatingthe kadhee, but if you make the comment ‘the kadhee is good’, then that is an opinion. It is also an opinion when you say ‘the kadhee is bad’. And if you do not say it is good or bad, and you eat it, you stop the mind from being born. Therefore when you stop giving opinions, the mind will cease to be born. It is easy to understand this, is it not?
Questioner: You said a great thing. We give opinions very quickly.
Dadashri: That is why the mind is born.
Therefore, this is our great discovery. The world will be blessed if this is disclosed to the world. We discovered who the ‘father’ and the ‘mother’ of mind are.
‘We’ do not have any opinions hence ‘our’ mind has ended. Now by opinion we do not mean the kind that you give for people, but opinions about food like, ‘this is very good’, ‘that is very bad’, - what is the need for giving opinions in that? Eat, drink and be merry. Does anyone tell you not to eat?
Questioner: That is true.
Dadashri: Eat everything; eat shrikhand, puri, basundi etc., but there is no need to give opinions. Why do you have to say, ‘this is wrong’?
Therefore, if you do not want to give rise to the mind you cannot indeed do that, and if you want it to be born, then you can indeed do that too, once you know who it’s father and the mother are.. If you stop giving opinions in this life, then you will stop forming a mind for your next life. So no opinion even if it is salty. Don’t eat salty things if you don’t want to but do not give opinions. If you like sweets, eat as much as you please, but do not give any opinions. When you meet a noble person, deal with him in every way, take advantage of his nobility, but do not give any opinions. Opinion is the father of the mind. This is a very deep and great discovery. People will realize that when they grasp it, because up until now they believed that the mind is something God gives us. That is not the case.
What Gnani’s mind is like? It never gets bound. If you were to show Him diamonds even then it will not get bound!
Book Name: Aptavani 2 (Page #342 – Paragraph #2 – Entire Page, Page #343 - Paragraph #1 to #2)
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