What to do when you hurt someone so badly that the person feels like committing suicide?
If you think that you may be the cause of someone binding a suicidal intent, you must first understand the ill effects your conduct has on him or her. That person could be experiencing various emotions from self-doubt, loneliness, nervousness, worries, fear and even depression.
You should ask yourself, “Would I like it if this happened me? How would I feel if I were in the same position as them?” Put yourself in their shoes! So, what can you do to improve your behavior towards them? If you are reading this, then you have already recognized that you hurt someone and that you need to alter your behavior towards him or her.
What to do next:
- Apologize to them for your bad behaviour before the situation worsens. Tell them, “I have no sense. Please forgive me.” So that, they will be pleased and promise to never repeat it.
- Communicate with them and clear the tension which has developed between you.
- Be genuine and honest with them from now on.
- Understand that things will not change right away. It will take time, so be patient.
- Analyse the effects that your bad behavior has had on yourself and on them.
- Find out what caused such behavior that led the other person to have suicidal thoughts, and take steps to prevent it.
- Remembering God, sincerely ask for heartfelt forgiveness from that person in your mind, while making a firm resolve never to behave that way with anyone again.
If a person becomes so depressed that he feels like committing suicide because of what you said to him; if you find yourself in that state, then you should continue doing pratikraman for half an hour to an hour that, “Why did I have to get in such a situation? I became a nimit (instrument) for this?”
How should one ask for forgiveness if someone is hurt?
The solution to a situation where we have been the cause of someone developing suicidal thoughts is to ask for forgiveness.
Through heartfelt repentance, any hurt we may have caused to someone is washed away. Regarding this, Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan says:
Questioner: Is it true that no matter what wrongdoing (paap) is in the vessel of repentance, it...
Dadashri: It will become lighter due to repentance.
Questioner: Does it not burn to ashes?
Dadashri: It will be burned completely. Many such paap will be burned; they will come to an end. The ‘soap’ of repentance is such that it will apply to all kinds of ‘clothes.’
Questioner: And when it is done in Your presence, what will remain?
Dadashri: You will be blessed. Therefore, there is no other ‘soap’ as the ‘soap’ of repentance in this world.
Bow down to the God residing within the person you have hurt, ask for forgiveness in your mind, heartily repent for your mistake, and make a firm decision never to repeat it again.
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