How to meditate and explain true meditation (spiritual meditation)?

People sit to meditate, but do they have a goal in mind?

They haven't even visualized the goal, so what can they meditate on, a buffalo? To meditate without a goal is called updhyan. God has not instructed anyone to meditate on the Soul in the form of words. What is the definition of ultimate meditation? It is when you have the awareness of all the characteristics (guna) of the soul at a time. The attributes of the Soul is called dhyeya (aim or goal) and when you yourself become dhyata (the one who has the attributes), only then can your meditation be called dhyan. All this cannot remain in your awareness at the same time. These people cannot attain samadhi (a state free of all effects from the non-self) when they are in aadhi (mental agony) by day, vyadhi (physical suffering) by night and during a wedding, in upadhi (problems brought on by others)?

Questioner: They tell us to focus our attention on our breathing, exhalation and inhalation. What is the benefit?

Dadashri: What do they tell you to do? They tell you to concentrate on the air that flows in and out of your nostrils. Breaths flow in and out, but what in the dickens are you going to do with that focus? What in the dickens do your nostrils have anything to do with it? Let go of this foolishness! Why don't you do this when you get an asthma attack? How can you? They say that when the breath goes in, it makes the sound 'so' and upon exhalation it sounds like 'hum'. From that you get 'sohum' 'sohum', 'humso', 'humso', and they tell you to meditate on that. But the Soul is neither 'sohum' nor 'humso'. The Soul is not to be found in that word. Vitarag Lords have used the word 'Atma' as a way for us to understand the Soul in a word form. However, the Soul is not to be found in Books or in the scriptures, here only the word 'Atma' is to be found. The real or true Atma is to be found only with the Gnani. Do you think that by observing your breaths in and out, you will remain in samadhi? No. What happens there? The mind gets destroyed. The mind is like a boat; it is necessary to cross the ocean of the worldly life and reach across to the other shore. Meditating as the Self is the true meditation. And the other thing is that if you keep dhyan (pay attention) in making khichadee, then your khichadee will be ready for you eat. Just keep these two dhyans. All others are crazy (useless) meditations. If one remains in the dhyan of 'Dada' it is fine, even if he does not have any other understanding, because he will then become 'that'. The Gnani Purush is your own Self; therefore, you will gradually become that.

Attaining the Soul is atmadhyan i.e. meditation as the Self. And in worldly meditation you are to meditate on the work at hand. For example while cooking pay attention to the items of food that you are cooking. All other dhyans being taught elsewhere become burdensome. Meditation is only meant for those who suffer from an agitated mind, but where is it necessary for others? Who knows where this kind of meditation will lead one?

The Lord has said for one to pay attention to (dhyan) one's meals and one's husband in the relative life, and if not these then the Self. Besides, what will you do with all other dhyans? Why do you need other dhyans for internal peace? All others are meditations that have nothing to do with the Self. They merely sound pleasing to the ear. Some people find it pleasant to their mind and for others it appeals to their intellect. It all depends on one's mind